Do you struggle to prioritize routine actions that support your body, mind, spirit, and nervous system? I do too!

AND, I’ve been using an original self-attunement practice that I developed 6 years ago. Even though I still struggle, this system makes self-attunement a LOT easier!

  • Do you struggle with internalized demand avoidance to things that you want to do?  
  • Do you feel like the pressure you put on yourself to achieve goals doesn't work?
  • Do you shame or blame yourself or feel like a failure for not reaching goals?
  • When you don't reach a goal, do you make that mean something negative about who you are as a person?
  • Does neuro-normative goal setting advice make you want to scream? 


If you said yes to these, this course is for you! 

This fall, I'll be teaching my self-love goal working practice for a second time.

Goal working is more than just setting goals; it also involves shifting and striking goals based on the body’s changing needs… and it’s these adjustments, not the goals themselves, which gradually, over time create attunement. 

This is NOT about the consumerist, hyper-individualist form of self-love. We're focusing on a radical, liberatory, interconnected kind of self-love that acknowledges how extremely difficult it can be to care for ourselves in the midst of ongoing systemic trauma, while also recognizing that self-love is a part of our experience that we do have some control over.

I’m a neurodivergent researcher with lived experience of attempting to implement self-care and self-love in spite of ableism, capitalism, patriarchy, and queerphobia. I'll be teaching mostly from my own experience and sharing how I approach working with goals.

What are the sessions like?

Each zoom call lasts a bit less than 2 hours. We will begin with a short read-aloud from a relevant book, and then I’ll share what I’ve learned about goal working as it relates to nervous system care. 

During the first session of each month, we’ll have time to brainstorm supportive goals for that month based on what our nervous systems need. 

During the second session of each month, I’ll coach us through adjusting goals to match our evolving needs. This is an opportunity to get help re-working your goals to be less pressurey and more neuro-affirming.

Who is this for?

  • Trauma survivors, chronic illness warriors, neurodivergents, disabled people, and anyone else who struggles with self-love because of life circumstances

  • People who are fed up with capitalistic productivity-based goal setting or so-called SMART goals and would rather think about goals in a more flexible, kind, and supportive way

  • People who want a trauma-informed, somatic-based, neurodivergent-affirming, community-centered space to learn, connect, and practice listening to our bodies

Lesson Topics

  • Sept 3

    Setting Doable Self-Care Goals in 6 Possible Realms

  • Sept 17

    Goal Striking and Goal Shifting - attunement through adjustments

  • Oct 1

    Creating Routines with our Personal Safety Cues

  • Oct 15

    Dynamic Disability - when our “best” changes drastically

  • Nov 5

    Centering Community in our Self-Care Goals

  • Nov 19

    Everything is Progress - celebrating the goals we didn’t reach

Pricing options

The cost of the full series is $300. If that amount is financially difficult, you may choose a payment plan or you may pay half price, no questions asked. If the reduced cost is inaccessible, please scroll down to the end of the page to find the scholarship application.

FAQ

  • How long does course access last?

    The course will be available here on this site at least through the end of 2024. You can download the replays for permanent access.

  • If I do the recorded version, is there a way to ask questions between sessions?

    We have a private Facebook group where past, current, and future members of this course are welcome to ask questions.

  • Can I buy the course as a gift for someone else?

    Yes! When you go to the checkout page, you can click the box next to "This is a gift" and then add the recipients email address.

Instructor(s)

Janae Elisabeth

Trauma Geek

Janae (they/she/he) is an information synthesizer who has been studying polyvagal theory and related nervous system models for 6+ years. Their specialty is tying together threads of information from many different fields to create a holistic understanding of the nervous system and neurodivergence. Janae has deeply studied these topics in an effort to understand himself better as an AuDHD PDAer with complex trauma. Since 2018, she has been teaching about trauma, the nervous system, and neurodiversity through local peer support circles and through the advocacy and education project, Trauma Geek. For legal reasons, please note, Janae is not a counselor or therapist.